What To Consider Before You Take A Break In Your Relationship

So, you’ve decided you’re going to take a break, you’ve laid down the ground rules, but now what? “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” as Mary Oliver asked in her poem “The Summer Day.” Your time is now completely your own, so don’t waste it. You and your partner took a break for a reason, so don’t let the opportunity to work on yourself pass you by.

“I’ve found with relationships that timing can be everything,” founder of The Sex Ed Liz Goldwyn tells Refinery 29. “It is not the end of the world to come apart to focus on yourself, your needs, and your evolution while letting your partner do the same. You may find yourselves closer than before, or come to a clarity you wouldn’t have been able to if you didn’t have space to breathe — remember that what keeps a flame burning is oxygen.”

If done properly, a break can breathe new life into a relationship that feels like it’s in a rut or needs a new direction. Sometimes relationships worth fighting for need a bit of space before they can fully flourish. Just look at Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck and what that years-long break did for them. You could be J.Lo, but you just don’t know it yet.